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Music contains all of the spaces between those discrete points.  

When we hear it, it wraps us in its embrace and takes us away to other places.  Moving us deeply on an emotional level.  And certain types of music can be very healing and nurturing. 

They can be very uplifting as it connects us with a deeper sense of purpose and provides those moments in which all of our needs are met.

It’s a pure, sincere expression of prosperity. 

For me, I started my relationship with music quite young when I was 5 years old.  

However, that didn’t last long because it was my mom’s dream that I learned piano.  Needless to say, I had toys to play with and the great outdoors was calling at that young age.

When I turned 11, I became drawn to the guitar.  After the fiasco with piano lessons, my parents were skeptical of my enthusiasm. They thought that if I got a guitar that it was going to sit on the shelf and collect dust. 

So they weren’t really up for investing much in a guitar. After some sincere begging, I finally got my dad to take me to a little dusty pawn shop and pick up some old, beaten up Fender guitar.

It needed some serious love.  But to their surprise, I played the hell out of it and showed this guitar all the love that I had!

Well, it’s 29 years later and no guitar of mine has sat on the shelf and collected dust (for too long at least!).

Music as an Antidote to the Disconnect of Modern Life

Guitar was my escape from a world I never felt fully part of.  It allowed me to fill in the gaps of what was missing in life. 

In my experience, this is true of many other creatives I’ve met.  It seems that there are things that we can just naturally access through our creative expression that we have trouble sourcing amongst the normal routines of everyday life.

In fact, those precious moments of creative expression really enrich everyday life.  They make the ordinary moments extraordinary.

I loved the creative process so much that in my late teens I wanted to be a professional musician.  

I went to music school for a little while and almost took that dive fully after working as a guitar teacher part-time and getting local gigs. 

But then I had a profound realization: I didn’t want to taint my relationship with music by having to rely on it for an income. 

That pressure can strain the creative process to the point where it no longer yields fruit. 

Instead, I wanted to keep the relationship with music pure. 

I wanted to allow it to be light and playful and give myself the freedom to experiment and allow pieces of music to come together and flourish in their own time.

Not based around some externally imposed schedule. As a result, music has really been my medicine amidst all of life’s disappointments, challenges, and heartbreaks. Playing guitar is like a salve that soothes the pain and actually transmutes it into something usable.

This relationship with music has allowed me to build a sense of resiliency and allowed me to  find meaning in those painful moments that are inevitable in all life.  

I’ve owned many guitars in my day, too. 

There was a period of time where I was traveling lots, or, you know, doing business, and I would pick one up, carry it around for a bit, and then sell it off over here when, you know, I only had two bags to take on the plane, and the guitar was the third bag.

I remember once I was in Peru and I had this little travel guitar with me.  I met a Peruvian guy that was a little bit younger than me.  I played this travel guitar and he was absolutely mesmerized by it.

He decided that he REALLY wanted it.  He flat out asked me if he could buy it. 

And I thought, “Well, this guy want this guitar much more than I do so maybe it’s meant for him!”

I ended up selling it to him and it was quite beautiful to see how much joy that he received from this exchange. 

He obviously could not get that kind of travel guitar in Peru.  For him, it was an experience of acquiring something rare and beautiful, so I was happy to let it go for a better cause.

Picking up and letting go has been my story with musical instruments throughout my life.

Until recently when I worked with a South African luthier named Theunis Fick, who tirelessly worked with me to craft a guitar to my exact specifications.  

This is a totally new experience. Something I’ve never done before.  With the amount of time, commitment and devotion that went into creating this guitar I can assure you, I won’t be leaving it behind.

The first day I played it, it was a brand new guitar. It was like a child fresh out of the womb.  

As I played this guitar, I thought to myself “Wow, this thing is going to grow and learn as we develop this relationship!”

The more I play it, the more the wood of the guitar responds to the frequencies that are vibrating through it.  Adapting organically to the unique signature of my playing from soft fingerpicking melodies to energetic percussive styles.

And so as a result, it will only blossom into its own sound and character after many years. 

That’s very exciting because it’s a relationship and it’s something that needs to be cared for and nurtured over time.

Creativity Creates Purpose and Prosperity

As I mentioned earlier, there have been several periods in my life where I have put the guitar down. 

Those busy periods where I was so engrossed in other projects that I couldn’t bring myself back to the sanctuary of doing what I truly loved. I always noticed that those periods of life were accompanied by a sense of purposelessness.

Over time, I realized that playing guitar is my compass.  

It’s that sacred time where I just get to be and sort through all the noise and distraction in life and allow me to hone in on something that matters.  In studying spiritual traditions and alchemy, I realized that everything taught in those traditions is mirrored in the creative process.

The creative path is truly beautiful because it’s coherent and it puts us into a coherent state. 

To embrace creativity requires equal parts of discipline and surrender. It engages both hemispheres of the brain.  This is proven.

It’s been neurologically verified that musicians and creatives have greater cross-communication between both hemispheres of the brain.

A Tragedy Overcome

I had a friend who was a very accomplished musician.  

At the age of 30, he had an unexpected and devastating stroke.  

It was terrifying because my band and I were coming home after tour and saw him leaving on a stretcher being hurried into an ambulance. 

Immediately, we unhooked the trailer and followed the ambulance to the hospital.  We later found out that he had a stroke. 

It was a major stroke, and prior to the ambulance getting there, he had been alone at home for 15 hours. 

The doctors had a grim prognosis – they said that he was going to be severely compromised for the rest of his life.

What they didn’t know was that he had a natural advantage – he was a lifelong musician.

Initially, he was on a slow path to recovery. He didn’t have motor functions, he couldn’t even speak. 

Eventually, he partially regained his motor functions and as soon as he could pick up his bass again, he started playing music.  That was when his recovery improved significantly, astounding the doctors.

And that just goes to show the power of creativity to forge neural coherence. Prior to picking up his bass, different parts of his brain were not talking to each because of the stroke. 

After he started playing again, he began reactivating the cross communication between both hemispheres of the brain.

Creativity & Coherence

A coherent state is when we’re functioning optimally with both hemispheres of the brain in perfect synchronization.  This activates the corpus callosum that connects us to our heart energy. 

This is the essence of inner peace, balance, and well-being.

This is the nectar bestowed from walking the creative path that lives inside all of us. It extends far beyond our moments of creative expression and becomes useful to other areas of life. 

It enhances our sense of well being and our sense of spiritual purpose. It creates emotional vulnerability so that we can show up better in relationships. It allows us to think outside the box and problem solve in new ways.

The gifts of the creative path are applicable to our business and our life’s work.  

It contains equal ingredients of discipline and surrender. 

One must learn the technique of their craft. 

As a musician, we practice our scales. We have to learn chords. 

Sometimes when I’m playing guitar, I sit there and I focus on getting one note right for a long period of time, but it’s done from a space of devotion.

We naturally want to improve and get better because it’s done out of pure love and leads to a greater experience of flow state.  

The more that discipline and structure is brought into practice and honing our craft, the more freedom and space that it provides to improvise and to surrender into the creative process.  

Everyone is Creative

One of the most disastrous things in modern society is that people have come to believe that they’re not creative.

This is a horrible lie that we tell ourselves. 

Every single person I have met is creative. They might just not recognize it. 

To be creative is to be human and it has many ways of unfolding.  

It could be the way that we raise children 

The way that we tell stories. 

The way that was engage our imagination.

The way that we prepare food. 

These are all part of the creative process.

And the more that we can just take a moment to pause between thoughts and say, What if I tried this instead? And we experiment a little bit and see where it leads. That’s the moment that we’re engaged in the creative process. That’s the moment where we’re stepping out of the box and into the miraculous. 

I hope to leave you with this: Just do the damned thing that your heart longs for!  

Take some time to remove the distractions. 

Commit yourself to that thing for at least a couple weeks. 

Really gift yourself this time to begin a relationship with it.  

Remember, the hardest part is simply getting past the inner doubt, the self criticism, the self judgment, and taking that first step into doing what you think you might feel like you love doing.

Because once you’re in it, there’s no going back. 
It’s kind of like the Hotel California. You can check out any time, but you can never leave.

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The reason being is that there’s rarely one type of purpose for everybody. 

Purpose generally falls into two categories.

Category one is the more traditional, typical definition of somebody who finds a vocation early in life, commits themselves to mastery and merrily goes through life refining the process. 

Let’s look at an example…

Say someone becomes a masterful potter and they have studied at a fine arts school. They create pottery and sell it at farmer’s markets and genuinely enjoy what they do.

One could argue that this is their life path. 

People like this who live upon a straight, defined trajectory generally have a defined identity center in their Human Design charts. A lot of our personal design happens at birth or even before we’re born.

Purpose as a Rich Tapestry of Experience

For other people (myself included), “what is my purpose’’ is a question that we ask many times in our life as our identity morphs and changes. 

As we go through various experiences and pass through various seasons of life we experience a rich tapestry of experiences. From the variety of things that we try, we usually pick out one little kernel of truth from each one.

And this approach to purpose is more like weaving our own quilt over time where we collect a patch from here and there. 

These types of people are often labeled as jack of all trades and a master of none.  Of course, this has a negative connotation to it. 

I would actually redefine this approach as being a deep generalist.

A deep generalist is somebody who can look at a big picture, a holistic structure, and they can see how all the pieces and nodes of that structure fit together. 

Now, this is a very valuable role. If you have an organization, you need to know how all the parts fit together.

How all the different pieces of the ship contribute to each other to actually move the vessel forward in a desirable direction.  

In the first category, where people have a defined identity, they usually find what they want to do early on in life, or they might find it later on after having done something that was unfulfilling for a number of years.

But it’s a rather simple process…

They find the thing that they want to do, and then they commit themselves to it. 

Living in Bali, I saw this a lot with people who had worked in the corporate world or they were in health care for a number of years and then they found breathwork (just an example).  

All of a sudden they’re like, “Oh my God, breathwork is the key! Nervous system regulation is the answer to my life’s work!”

These people want to go out there and want to spread the word of this incredible modality.

Now the world needs a lot of people like that. 

They need people with these clearly defined purposes. 

And…

These people can be the envy of those who go through life with an undefined identity center and are often questioning what they are here to do.

In the case of a clearly-defined purpose it usually comes as a revelation. These people come into contact with the thing that they’re meant to be doing and that is that.

This can happen early in life. However, it’s more likely that it happens after a major inflection point in life, where there’s dissatisfaction with whatever they were previously doing.

The Second Phase of Life

Typically, the second phase of life occurs sometime around 30 years of age.

The first 30 years of our life is generally us sorting out our past conditioning. 

Ancestral conditioning, upbringing conditioning, and our own karmic imprints are mostly dealt with up until our 30th year of life.

This is what the ‘Saturn return’ in astrology signifies. 

After 30 years of age is usually when people start to break out into their own personal sense of individuation. 

It’s a very common inflection point in life where people will begin to make massive changes. Maybe they went to school for something, worked a couple years at a job, and they feel like that’s not what they want to do.  

“I’m done doing things as I was taught and now I want to do this thing over here.”

These people end up on a completely different trajectory. Educating themselves with as much information that relates to the direction of where they really want to go. 

For those with a defined identity, they have the advantage of finding something discrete and easily recognizable. 

Their challenge is to express their uniqueness amongst the other players in the field.  

This is when people realize “I am a breathwork facilitator, I am a yoga teacher, I am a potter or I am a caretaker.” 

Finding the richness and mastery of coming into one’s own unique expression vocation is important for these individuals. It’s taking that discrete role and beginning to expand the definition of it. 

Those with undefined identity centers typically start to try out a variety of different experiences at this time.  Some enjoyable, some not so enjoyable. 

These people will inevitably find themselves back at square one.  And quite often.

They feel like, “God, I’m back here again. I don’t feel like I’ve gotten anywhere.”

In truth, they have made tremendous progress.  They simply don’t see it yet.

All of the things that they’ve tried go into a subconscious memory bank, forming a holistic superstructure in the background. 

When I do readings for these kinds of people, they are more often than not the ones who ask “What is my purpose?”

I start uncovering all the things that they’ve done in their life, and how these endeavours contribute to a certain overarching direction or aim. 

That’s usually when the eureka happens. 

Because, we’re at a very interesting time in history. We’re at a time in history where a lot of old institutions are no longer providing solutions.

Old systems no longer hold their weight or importance. There is a birthing of something new underway, something that’s radically different from anything we’ve experienced, but it’s still under construction. 

It has not fully sprung its roots into the world to the degree where it has penetrated society at large.

Instead, purpose lives as a vision within people’s hearts and within people’s minds. 

It’s not something that they can fully articulate yet. 

Many of us speak very vaguely about a new paradigm or a heart-led ethos.  It’s obvious to certain people out there that things should just be an expression of what we enjoy doing and caring for others is a given.

Now, for these types of people, their challenge is taking their myriad of different experiences and actually creating some sort of a discernible structure with that.

The primary difference between them and the people who had a very clear path to walk is that their work is about taking a lot of different experiences and creating a discrete, recognizable offering.  Often these people can get lost in ideas that are too big, too complicated, or have too many parts in the mix that don’t relate with each other.

Their work is about distilling out the essence of their impressions and piecing things into a new form of order. 

This path to purpose is generally where I see people, sometimes in their 40s, 50s, and even 60s, where they’re just starting to make those clicks happen. 

From them, it simply does not usually happen earlier on in life like during the first 30 years.

I love the quote by Carl Jung, “Life doesn’t begin until you’re 40 – up until then, it’s just field research.” 

This quote rings very true because I am a perpetual experimenter. 

When I discovered this concept of a deep generalist and when I started to uncover that purpose can be about taking many things and synthesizing them into a unique expression and distilling that into a discrete offering – things clicked.

It makes so much more sense and it adds a lightness and a levity of things. 

Now when I go through the natural troughs of a cycle where I feel like I’m back at square one again, I rest assured that all of the pieces I’ve been picking up and all the experiences are sorting themselves out into their rightful place.  

People like this will have creative outbursts, and then there’ll be a trough of inactivity where they can get caught up in the complacency.  It’s remembering that during those periods of boredom and complacency, digestion is happening on a level that we might not be aware of.

There’s a ton of stuff going on at the level of energetic digestion and in our subconscious mind that will only express itself later. 

We are bound by the larger rhythms in life where things move out and expand and then naturally take time to contract. We cannot always be productive; that form of societal conditioning just wears people out over time.

It either depletes them energetically or it starts to veer them off on a path that is disconnected from what they enjoy doing. 

We end up veering off more and more when we refuse to take time to sit down and reflect and ask ourselves, “do I enjoy doing this? Is this actually creating a positive, collective benefit?”

It’s important to realize that we are never coming back to square one. We simply arrive at a temporary period of rest. This period is simply a natural time of contraction. 

Society attempts to impose its own version of a contraction period.  We call them weekends where we are allowed to flop down and relax.

But, our peak output Monday to Friday is expected to remain nonstop. 

This doesn’t jive for most people because each individual has their own energetic signature. Some people work very well in two hour bursts, and then they need to just sit back and relax. 

Other people are great at basically starting in the morning and plowing through until dusk.  They feel satisfied and are comfortable to simply flop their head on the pillow at the end of the day. It’s different for each individual, and so I encourage you to figure out your own rhythm.

Using a system like Trifecta, which blends human design, gene keys, and astrology,  can help people uncover their energetic signatures and what will actually work for them. 

The beauty of Trifecta, is it actually goes to a deeper level than just the day-to-day and our personality. 

Normal, tropical astrology, human design, and gene keys looks at the personality level, the person we are in the world, and tries to make that more harmonious.

Trifecta goes to a deeper layer of who we are at a fundamental, essential level, and helps us discover the ideal path for embodying that and for taking action in the world. 

It assumes that we’re already perfect to start with.  There’s nothing wrong with us; we’ve simply just caked on a little bit of mud that occludes our brightness. 

Purpose can just be an exploration for long periods of life.  That’s totally fine.

Eventually, when we relax enough, and when we let go of the elements that aren’t serving us, our actual purpose will reveal itself.  At some point, even those with an undefined identity center, will land on something.

You may be a synthesizer – blending many different modalities into one or responsible for creating something new that’s never been created before.  

In my case, I’ve tried a number of different things, both in my career, and also in my entrepreneurial journey.

I started off with astrology and doing energy work and that led me to discover a number of different opportunities.  I joined different startups related to brainwave entrainment, getting into video editing, graphic design and creative work.  I made music and then went on to help people with their business and build up brands.

It’s been a long, exciting and unexpected journey – that’s for sure!

Now, I’ve finally arrived at two signature things that feel good for me. 

One is this trifecta system, which taps into a person’s ideal reality to provide better alignment for life, business, and relationships. And the other involves working with people to help them as a long-term business growth partner.

And so both of these things are discrete offerings.  They are also related as different phases of a continuum.

By offering both of these, I can have the richness of variety and the versatility of experiences that I’ve come to like and enjoy. 

My journey is an example of how that second type of purpose, the one with the undefined identity, can actually evolve into a beautifully simple mosaic of expression.

Ultimately, what I really want to do is foster a community of people who really feel passionate about plugging into a new paradigm that is heart led and full of life force and vitality.  One that  contributes to building a positive future. 

This is my big Why.  And as long as the little things along the way stay committed to the big, overarching why, we will stay on the right track!
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This truth will hopefully help you alleviate the burden of unhealed traumas and allow you to move through life with more energy and inspiration without running into the same patterns of self-sabotage or resistance.

Healing is a vague term that is not very well understood by society.

Most people out there think that healing is the thing you do when you get sick and get back to normal life. Or the time it takes for a broken arm to get better.

And while that is certainly true, that’s mostly the automatic healing process of the body.

But sometimes the body cannot properly heal itself.

It leaves behind scar tissue or it heals in sort of a compromised state and localizes a solution, but doesn’t regain the functionality that we once knew.

And similarly, when things happen to us on an emotional, mental level, or spiritual level, something similar happens in those more subtle bodies.  It leaves a form of scar tissue as well (only not detectable with the five senses!).

However, this process is a little less clear for many.

Primarily because modern science has not quite got to the point where it’s fully ready to acknowledge the things that happen on a more subtle or energetic level.  Therefore, we don’t have the advantage of fancy imaging to map this out like we do for broken bones and organ conditions.

The interesting thing is that what happens on these subtle levels are actually the causal forces that cause things to happen in the physical.  You could say, they are like a ‘blue-print’ for the design of our lives.

We exist multi-dimensionally with varying levels of density – the physical being the most dense.

Then there’s the emotional, which is more dense than thoughts.  We feel our emotions as very strong physical sensations.

The mental body is an even more fine substance.

Beyond there, there are the true causal forces – ancestral or the karmic. These layers determine the events that may play out in our lives should we not change anything.

This is typically what we call ‘luck’.

Believe it or not, certain astrological systems have a pretty good track record for predicting when difficulties or accidents will happen in life.  There’s a whole field of medical astrology which was very popular until the world began putting its faith in allopathic medicine.

Yes, our medieval ancestors knew a few more things about the nature of reality than we are currently being taught in school!

How that knowledge of future events is known about beforehand, is an awe-inspiring mystery.  However, it suggests that possibly there’s a greater design out there than our society is willing to acknowledge.

MAINSTREAM RECOGNITION OF ANCESTRAL TRAUMA

Fortunately, the attitude in the mainstream is beginning to shift as they realise that the process of healing is a very multi-layered, interconnected subject.  A subject for which there’s a very complex interplay between thoughts, emotions, genetic conditioning, and the way that it takes its toll on the physical body.

Ancestral trauma is a concept beginning to emerge into the mainstream psychological profession as researchers and practitioners are beginning to realize that the actions of our grandparents and what they went through might actually affect the way that our parents raised us and affect our own upbringing.

Obviously we know that when raising children, what we do in those first five years has a huge impact on the rest of their life.

If the way that parents are raising their children is based upon a mountain of trauma from previous generations or maybe even just unconscious patterning we know that is going to have a significant, lasting effect on the child.

So this is an obvious, well-documented way that this plays out.

However, this is just the start.

There are actually other ways in genetics that this plays out too.  For instance, we know we inherit the genetic signature of our ancestors. We know how genetics can determine the way that certain predispositions for physical ailments, hormones, and metabolic patterns are linked to genetics.

However, genes also speak into the habits that we naturally form in life, the attitudes that we carry, our ability to perceive things, develop skills, and form beliefs.

All of these factors are controlled by our genetics.  The very genes we inherit from our ancestors.

When DNA was first discovered, they thought that its configuration was predetermined and ‘fixed’.  However, since the discovery of epigenetics in the 1940’s, the research has increasingly shifted to recognise that genetic patterns can actually be re-written.

In other words, we are not at the affect of our genes if we take certain actions in life.

I know from my own experience having healed a genetic auto-immune disease by working directly with the approaches discussed in this article.  Yes, I have first-hand experience with the power of epigenetics!

From my personal experience and the experiences of clients, I’ve seen how when something chronic occurs in the physical body, it’s because there was an emotional pattern that was entrenched for a period of time.

That emotional pattern is usually underlain by a particular belief. A belief that causes our brain to activate pre-determined neurological pathways so that when external stimuli comes in, that belief gets triggered, reinforces an emotional pattern, that emotional pattern becomes entrenched.

This is typically how physical ailments manifest along this chain of events.

ANCIENT EARLY MEDICAL DIAGNOSTICS

In Ayurveda, for instance, they believe that disease isn’t even detectable until about the fourth stage in its development.  An ailment starts off with a very subtle, slight imbalance caused at a level that we cannot yet measure with our modern scientific instruments.

What caused this imbalance in the first place is obviously a question to ask, especially if it is too subtle to detect…

This begs a bigger question for which everybody is going to have a different opinion.

However, in my line of work, I’ve seen enough empirical evidence to know that certain systems just work.

Certain systems that can map out imbalances at the time of birth and they can basically show us when or what the undesirable outcomes of our life and the desirable ones might be.

As alluded to earlier, before Allopathic medicine, doctors used to practise medical astrology. They look at the positioning of the stars at a person’s birth and they would be able to correlate them with different things in people’s bodies.

For this, they would be able to ascribe different treatments from the celestial diagnosis.  I suppose they needed something to make up for their lack of ability to see within the body.

In examining medical astrology, I’ve made an observation that our genes are deeply connected to what happens with respect to celestial alignments.

There’s the ancient hermetic principle “As above, so below”.  This means that what happens within us is a fractal of the things happening in the world and cosmos at large.

When we are able to recognize that planets and stars have an influence on our genetics through the subtle influence of the cosmic rays and neutrinos they bombard us with, it’s easier to see how astrology might actually be able to predict our future health.

Maybe in a couple hundred years, the tenured scientists at the top academic institutes will come around to this and start to embrace the primary role that subtle energetics has in the manifestation of the physical.

Especially when we are able to put the precision of modern (or futuristic) instrumentation to use in measuring these things.  This will obviously require a reworking of our current operating scientific models.

DE-MYSTIFYING OUR OWN HEALING

My personal work and research has shown me that there are three critical steps for making a real shift in our lives and actually creating lasting healing.

Basically, not getting stuck on a healing loop for half your life or being negatively influenced by things beyond your conscious awareness.

And what I’ve come to realise is that instead of trying to constantly address the symptoms, you’ve got to go to the core of what is actually there.

The first step is to be able to identify that core imprint or pattern that sits at the centre.  The one for which forms the initial imbalance for which the myriad of tendencies and symptoms we experience develop around.

Going from the outside in is a very confusing and long process.  It is the path most people take as they wait until an issue is big enough to derail them from life and then try to fix it.

But if we are only dealing with symptoms, something else will inevitably pop up.  And then something else.

This pattern goes on and on and it’s like a game of cosmic whack-a-mole.

However, if you start at the core and address the initial imprint, this process is much faster and cleaner.

THE 3 STEPS FOR IDENTIFYING AND BALANCING THE CORE WOUND

This process is not meant to be difficult.  In fact it is simple, the difficulty simply comes in due to the contrast that balance has compared to the conditioning that we are identified with.

The first step to healing the core wound is to identify it.

You can do this by asking yourself what is at the core of my mis-alignment from life.  You could spend a lot of time weeding through and trying to identify it.

Fortunately, there’s a faster and more elegant way.

I’ve actually created an app that identifies the core wound using an innovative interplay of human design, Gene Keys, and True Sidereal astrology.  It is able to pinpoint your particular Core Wound based on your birthday, time of birth, and location.

The answers it provides are archetypal.  It is still written as a poem – or a koan.

To truly unravel this poem does require some contemplation.

Hundreds of people that I’ve worked with have used the results of this app to tune in and to find their own personal meaning based on their core wound.

So that’s the first step – identification.

The second step is acknowledgement and allowance.

As humans, we have a tendency to label things as either good or bad.  We essentially judge them and inhibit any change through this process.

Because when we judge things, we condemn them. We create separation.

What we need to do is actually acknowledge that this thing we don’t like is okay in and of itself.

It might be out of balance, but it’s trying to find harmony in its own way.

We simply just need to give it space.

So instead of saying, “My selfish tendencies are bad!” try asking “What does my selfishness really want? What does that quality within me really desire?”.

Because obviously the problems it’s creating are indicators that something is not working in this relationship between your selfishness and yourself.

What’s this thing really after?

Give it space to respond.

Just allow it to just be without reacting or judging.

What you’ll hopefully find realise is that selfishness isn’t bad. We don’t need to end it or cut it off.

It is actually just a shadowy, unhealed part of our genetics.

That same gene causing the selfishness has different forms of expressions.  In its highest expression, it’s actually selflessness.

So that genetic expression that was once selfish can turn into selflessness and create a very strong altruistic imprint or influence in the world as a result of that.

In summary: we don’t get rid of our core wound.

We just give it space to allow it to grow and evolve as it needs to.

It’s similar to the way in which we give children the space to play and explore their world.  If we say no all of the time… well, I have a 2-year old and I know how they like to misbehave!

The final step is to invite the pattern of our Core Wound to shift.

And in order to do this, we must guide it on a certain trajectory.

Yes, there is a natural expression for each shadow to come into the light of its gift and return to the unity of a transcendent quality as well!

…These things are predetermined like a law of nature.

When we have identified our Core Wound and know where it is to go, we have harnessed the ability of the left brain to focus itself.

Many heart-led people and new agers reject the left brain, but it simply needs to be included and given the noble task of maintaining a focus to be of immense service.

Once we have focused on where our core wound currently is and where it needs to go, we give it space.  We avoid expectation or clutching it emotionally.

Space governs the capacity of the right brain.

And then we invite it to shift.

By uniting a gentle focus with the giving of space, we synchronise the two sides of the brain.

The right brain and left brain come into a measurable form of harmony, activating the central column (the corpus callosum).  This activates our pineal gland and forms coherence with the neurons in our heart.

When the heart and mind are working as one, it is a very powerful force. The heart sends out an electromagnetic signal, shifting our attitude and internal state of being. DNA is very sensitive to the frequency of our internal state of being.

Thus, this process creates a genetic shift for the better.

The more that we walk through life with this affirming attitude because we know the direction in which that core wound wants to go, we actually heal that relationship.

When that happens, we are able to finally get on with our life.  We are able to stop being at the effect of external forces and self-sabotaging behaviours.

CONCLUSION

Healing the relationship with our Core Wound is the first step in actually aligning with our deeper purpose and attracting the things we need to bring it into the world.

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Introduction

Within the context of our relationships, our core wounding plays a pivotal role in shaping the quality of our interactions and connections with others.

Core wounding refers to the deep-seated emotional scars and vulnerabilities that originate from past experiences, often rooted in childhood.

Understanding how these wounds manifest and influence our relationships is crucial for fostering genuine connections and embarking on a journey of emotional healing.

Our early life experiences lay the foundation for our emotional landscape, shaping the lens through which we view ourselves and others. Core wounding typically stems from significant events or patterns of behavior during childhood, such as neglect, abandonment, or trauma. These experiences imprint lasting emotional imbalances that can unconsciously influence our adult relationships.

Impact on Self-Perception

Core wounding leaves an indelible mark on our self-perception. Individuals who have experienced rejection or emotional neglect may develop a deep-seated belief that they are unworthy of love and validation. This negative self-perception can manifest as insecurities, self-doubt, and an incessant need for external validation within relationships.

The Dance of Triggers

Unhealed core wounds often act as emotional landmines, triggering intense reactions in the present moment that are disproportionate to the current situation. These triggers can lead to conflict, misunderstandings, and an emotional distancing within relationships. Awareness of one’s triggers and open communication with a partner become essential tools for navigating the intricate dance of emotions.

Repetition of Patterns

Without conscious effort and intentional healing, individuals may unconsciously repeat patterns of behavior learned from their early experiences. This repetition can manifest in the choice of partners who recreate familiar dynamics, perpetuating a cycle of dysfunction. Recognizing these patterns is a crucial step toward breaking the cycle and fostering healthier relationships.

Vulnerability and Intimacy

Core wounding can create barriers to vulnerability and intimacy. Fear of being hurt or rejected may lead individuals to build emotional walls, preventing them from fully opening up to their partners. Developing trust and a sense of emotional safety is paramount for overcoming these barriers and allowing for genuine intimacy to flourish.

The Role of Compassion

Understanding the impact of core wounding in ourselves and our partners requires a compassionate approach. Compassion opens the door to empathy, creating a space where both individuals can acknowledge and support each other’s healing journey. By fostering a compassionate connection, partners can work together to break the chains of past wounds and build a foundation of strength and resilience.

Conclusion

In the intricate tapestry of relationships, the impact of core wounding is undeniable. Acknowledging and addressing these deep-seated emotional scars is essential for fostering healthy connections and creating a space where healing can flourish. By navigating the complexities of core wounding with awareness, compassion, and intentional effort, individuals can transform their relationships into a source of growth, support, and enduring love.

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